Relationship Patterns Therapy

Therapy for relationship patterns, love addiction and attachment wounds

If you find yourself repeating the same painful relationship dynamics — drawn to unavailable partners, trapped in push-pull cycles, or unable to leave relationships that hurt you — therapy can help you understand these patterns and begin to change them.

Patterns you might recognise

Relationship patterns rooted in attachment wounds and early trauma can show up in many ways: intense attraction to emotionally unavailable people, difficulty being alone — jumping from relationship to relationship, staying in toxic or abusive dynamics despite wanting to leave, obsessive thinking about a partner or ex, confusing anxiety and intensity with love, losing your identity in relationships, fear of abandonment driving clingy or controlling behaviour, or a cycle of idealising then devaluing partners.

Why these patterns persist

These patterns aren't random, and they're not your fault. They typically develop from early attachment experiences — what you learned about love, safety, and your own worth in childhood. When early relationships taught you that love is unpredictable, that you need to earn it, or that closeness comes with danger, your nervous system develops strategies to cope. In adulthood, those same strategies can keep you locked in painful cycles.

Terms like "love addiction", "relationship obsession", and "trauma bonding" describe different aspects of these patterns. What they have in common is a nervous system that learned to associate love with anxiety, intensity, or pain.

How therapy helps

We work together to understand your attachment style and how it shapes your relationship choices. We explore the childhood experiences that created these patterns. We build awareness of your triggers and automatic responses. We develop healthier ways of connecting — with others and with yourself. And we address the grief that often comes with recognising what was missing in early life.

This therapy is for you if...

You keep attracting the same type of partner. You can't stop thinking about someone who isn't good for you. You feel addicted to the highs and lows of a relationship. You know a relationship is harmful but feel unable to leave. You lose yourself when you're in love. You feel worthless or panicked when single.